I will know if you spend a lot of time with Adam.
Your smses and msns will probably filled with “… wor.. and like that wor…”
If you spend time with Hardy,
it’s “.. destiny.. brotherhood.. leadership.”
I just had supper with Jimmy.
Contents of our conversation includes priorty, business, finances and family.
Read Randolph’s blog.
Realized my mentor’s words are flowing into my friends’ lives as I share with them what Morrie shared with me.
” 3 in the inner circle and 12 on the outer circle.”
Morrie once shared that an average human being can maintain at most 15 quality relationships at anyone time. We have to choose carefully who we spend our time with.
3 is in the inner circle. For me, Hardy and Yangzheng took up 2 slots. One is reserved for my wife-to-be. My bestest ger buddy, jimmy and meimei is amongst the next 12.. and others whom i think may be too sensitive to name.
These 15 relationship changes in different seasons of your life. (some sentimental people may feel a lot about this) But this is true if you look around at the friends you have. Your primary school best friend is probably not the one you are sharing a lot of your life now with.
The reason why i indentify my inner circle and close circle amongst my friends is because I know who i can count on when i’m in crisis or when i need an accountability group. To find out who they are when you are in danger will be too late. These people guard your destiny, warn you of pitfalls, hold you accountable and watch your back. They encourage and motivate u when you are down, point you to God, the Rock that is higher than you.
They dare to risk the friendship for the best of your interests- stab you from the front if there is a need, I always say. They defend you against your accuser, protect your reputation, believe in your dreams and are committed to your destiny. This bonding will rise above disappointments. And when you move up, they cheer for you and tell you to go for it.
Friends in these circles are committed to your character development, they challenge your limitations, question your intentions. At its height, these friends will lay down their lives for you (and you for them), for nothing except a love represented in a committed relationship.
“In a multitude of counsellors there is safety.”- Proverbs
Build for yourself a circle of trust. Take time to choose your friends. It’s worth every trouble. Cos you can let your guard down with them. They will protect your mind from the fiery darts of the evil, despicable one. Have a mentor, a morrie. Have some counterparts at the same level and people whom you can bless and give and uplift. Then your Christian life is complete.
That day at the rehearsal for Emerge with Hardy is a night I will not forget for a long time. We prayer walked Expo twice. It was there I could see how our grandchildren will play together under the watchful eyes of their grandfather. I could see Hardy and me growing our white hairs in church, serving Him the rest of our lives. It is a tremendous joy for a vision so divine. Seeing our children giving their all to serve Him together.
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It’s tearing to realise you share your secrets with the wrong person and end up getting hurt tremendously because of betrayal. Knowing where people are placed in these circles also helps you to prioritize your time. How you want to spend it. Time=Life. Invest in relationships committed to growth and love. Jesus called only the closest 3 when He performed some of the miracles. And yes, friendships still can be formed even if your friends don’t worship the same God as you do.
Realise how your words and speech changes when you mix with certain people.
If you spend too much time with accountants, its always “assets, liabilities and owner’s equity”
You get the drift. Spend enough time with negative people and watch words like “sian, death, siao liao and die” coming out from your lips. Unknowingly.
Shape your world with words of possiblity, vision and strength. And in doing that, it will flow into the lives of others around you.
I want the words of my mouth and the mediation of my heart be worthy of His gospel.
I’m responsible for the friends I make. So i must choose well.
Are there people you may need to let go of today?
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